The Pulse is starting a new writing exercise: we’re getting our EFCC Catalysts to offer your perspective and maybe even advice from within their area of experience. Brad serves as the EFCC’s Communications Catalyst.
Clearly, it was time. When our 3 year old son started to exhibit signs of frustration in his inability to get his ideas across, we needed to reach out for help. Apparently, his cute toddler-ish babblings had real intent behind them, and we just weren’t getting it.
With encouragement from caring people in his life, we signed up for a class offering training to specific parents whose children were behind their age-group’s expected ability, and yet who could be reached with relatively minor intervention — there weren’t medical impediments which would require surgery, for example.
For me, in some ways, it was a return to the basics — the beginning was stuff that I learned in the very first course of university Communications.
- What’s the definition of a word?
- What are the building blocks of communication?
- What’s the difference between speech and language?
But quickly we departed from my area of education and experience, and began to ponder how speech interacts with the mystery of communication. Like so many things in life, it’s only when we’ve encountered a glitch in the process that we stop to examine what’s really happening. The physical and mental processes which go into talking are far more complex and intricate than most of us think about on a regular basis, or maybe ever.
For example, the speech therapists explained that to pronounce the word ‘church’ requires 42 different discernible processes. 42!
I was there for a practical reason — to get some resourcing and training for my son. And I did (those speech therapists are pretty special people!). But I also found that it was as amazing for me as a person, as it was for me as a dad.
It was a reminder that not only am I fearfully and wonderfully made, but that each of us is, and together, we are! Our ability to share ideas is a bewildering blessing (even if we sometimes turn it into a curse). How we share perspectives, inspiration and our whole selves with each other in the process of communication is worth considering.
Maybe even before there’s a crash! :-)
This journey with our son isn’t over. We’re taking time to practice the hard words with him. And there are still times when his speech is indecipherable. But the improvement he’s showing after some directed attention is remarkable. The way his confidence has increased is obvious. And the thrill he gets from us laughing at his jokes is unparalleled.